So, as the only bisexual writer, I think it’s about time I put down some thoughts on bisexuality. Any objections?

Of course there are. You probably know you’re a bigoted fuck for having them, but there will be people out there reading this (and I don’t mean straight folk) who don’t believe in bisexuality. Or who think all bi girls are gigantic sluts – and hetero sluts at that – who kiss girls (and like it!) in bars to impress their boyfriends (who certainly won’t mind it).

And of course there’s the popular and utterly stupid belief that all bisexuality is a transitional phase, after which the person will “settle down” into one camp or the other. And for some people it is, of course people go through stages of confusion. But it’s not that way for everybody, and it’s not that way for me.

Let me lay it out for you. Being bisexual is about having twice as much choice, not twice as many partners. And if I kiss a girl without his permish, my boyfriend is just as pissy as if I’d kissed a guy. I’m in a long term (and hopefully permanent) relationship with a man, but that doesn’t make me straight. And if I leave him for a woman, that won’t make me gay either. And if you’re that terrified to date a bisexual in case they leave you for the opposite sex, then your insecurities will ruin any relationship you have. Good luck with that, you cunt.

What I love about bisexuality is how fluid it is (and this is what this whole rant was meant to be about, but once you get me started on biphobia I just go, go, go), how from one day to the next my sexual orientation can shift from side to side. I had a very straight day yesterday – it was game society night, and I spent four hours in a room full of hot guys. A girl can only take so much! My head didn’t have space in it for thoughts of women when it was too full of, well, we won’t go into that here. I think some of them read this blog. But a few months back, last time I had sex with a woman, I went through a few days of crisis when I was certain I was actually a lesbian, and would have to break up with my boyfriend to run off with the curvaceous 4’10 hottie we’d spent the weekend with.

That can be scary and confusing at times, but it’s also a lot of fun. Although overall I can average it out to say that physically I lean strongly towards women, but feel a better emotional connection with men, that’s simplifying massively. The day to day shifts constantly redefine me as a person, and throw up new challenges to my relationship. I feel like, though my sexuality, I learn and grow.

So how does this relate to theism? Well, it’s the opposite. My sexuality is not set in stone, it fluctuates constantly and I am open to the possibility that it may shift dramatically in the years to come. Religion, by its very nature, does not change. Oh, the followers claim otherwise, with minor dogmatic shifts. But the basic foundation of any religion is not up for debate, it cannot be swayed and it is not open to just anyone for interpretation. Because when you base your entire code of morality on what a perfect, omnipotent being said thousands of years ago, you don’t really have much in the way of wiggle room. How can things change with time when the word of God is timeless? What room is there for improvement on supposed perfection?

Religions are static, set (like the ten commandments) in stone. Human sexuality is not – whether you are bisexual or you’ve “made up your mind” (because we are, as I’m sure you’ve been told, just too greedy to pick a side) to homosexuality or heterosexuality. Human gender is not fixed either – people are male, or female, or somewhere between the two, or somewhere else entirely.  If we can’t even sort ourselves comfortably into a binary, how could we ever all fit into a “one size fits all” belief system?

There is only one way – through denying who and what we are. Religion can only function through the sacrifice of individuality, and that I will not abide.

And a Medal.  The US Army and Obama deserve a spanking.

Darren Manzella received some harassing and threatening phone calls from an unknown source.  He went to his commanding officer, and explained the situation, asking for help.  The CO turned him in.  After being investigated for breaking “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Manzella having charges cleared because of lack of evidence for his homosexuality, even though he had a boyfriend and was living openly as gay (at least outside of work).

He was redeployed with his unit, who knew he was gay.  They served for fifteen months without incident.  Manzella was approached by the SLDN to see if he would speak to a news crew that wanted to interview an openly gay serviceman.  He decided the benefits of speaking outweighed the risks of dismissal, as there are approximately 65,000 gay, lesbian and queer servicemembers REQUIRED BY LAW to serve their country in the fucking closet.

After the interview, Manzella was allowed to continue work without incident.  Almost a year after the interview, Manzella was “given” an honorable discharge with “homosexual conduct admission” in the file.  After serving openly for almost two years, he was absolutely discharged for not keeping his mouth shut.

We have a pretty good idea that gays in the military does not hurt unit cohesion.  And we know that the Army is discharging people that have desperately needed skills.  So, to the Commander in Chief, please listen to Jon Stewart when he tells you it’s Fucking Chow Time.  This is something that absolutely SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING, and requires almost no effort on your part.  If you don’t, I can pretty much guarantee that the GayTM will be closed, and the DNC will be losing out on a huge portion of funding and volunteers.